We have all been there…a point in our lives where we take a hard, long look at the facts and realize that enough is enough. You know what I’m talking about, too. What it boils down to are the relationships and the choices we make in our lives. We continually fall for the old nickel and dime excuses and apologies because we are too afraid to let go of that unbridled history. It’s a comfort zone. We feel compelled to stay in negative relationships and the choices we’ve made because it’s all we know. The fact of the matter is that over the horizon, there is another choice. Another path that we can take to ensure our happiness and prosperity.
Why do you choose to keep hurting yourself? Yes, if you are in a relationship or lifestyle that continues to harm you, then it is in essence your choice. I’ve heard all the reasons before…
- but I love him/her
- but it’s the way he/she was raised
- but I have nowhere to go
- but s/he’s going to change
- but it’s somebody else’s fault
- but I can’t do it alone
- but I can’t get a job
Sound familiar? If you are using the words “but” and “can’t” in the same sentence, it’s time for a wakeup call. When this has become the story of your life then you must do a gut-check. I say “gut-check” because if you rely totally on your heart, you will quickly overlook all the negatives in your relationships. It’s easy to put on the blinders to the obvious. It makes it easier to swallow the next time a disappointment or failure happens in your life. You are already setting yourself up for it and you know it. So what are you going to do about it?
No one ever said that life is going to be easy. Nor has anyone ever mentioned that health, wealth and prosperity are going to be handed to you. It just doesn’t work that way. Truth of the matter is that life is challenging. The good news is that if you have the courage, the tenacity and the willpower to take a strong position for yourself and for the betterment of your life, all those negative choices will fall to the wayside. It is an understanding with which you must come to terms. Accept that some of your choices are not benefitting you. Accept that sometimes, you must discard those harmful choices so that you can improve your life circumstance. No, it isn’t going to be easy. It never is; especially with matters of the heart. When you have a personal attachment to something or someone, your heart is screaming, “No!” All the while, the writing is on the wall. You can clearly see that your choices have taken a wrong turn. You can see that no matter how many excuses or reasons you make for that choice, in the end, you must own up to it and let it go.
The brilliance of life is that you have an undying flame of hope within you. You can use that flame for one of two things: 1) to grow your life into one that blossoms and enriches your world and the world around you, or 2) to hope that your harmful choices will get better on their own. Which do you choose? Hope is resilience. Hope is always on your side. Use it wisely.
I am always reminded of a well-known spiritual and life-reflective poem that has always touched my heart and given me strength and hope when I needed it most:
Footprints in the Sand
One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints.
Other times there were one set of footprints.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life
When I was suffering from anguish, sorrow, or defeat,
I could see only one set of footprints.
So I said to the Lord, “You promised me, Lord,
That if I followed you, you would walk with me always.
But I noticed that during the most trying periods of my life
There have only been one set of prints in the sand.
Why, When I have needed you most, you have not been there for me?”
The Lord replied,
“The times when you have seen only one set of footprints
Is when I carried you.”
No, life is not about religion. It is not about money or material things. But life is about having the strength to overcome adversity and to discover the happiness that you so desire. Life is about finding that powerful spirit inside you that has the courage to say, “Enough.” Know that a higher power or maybe just that life force that you hold within is part of that source that will determine your fate and the destiny that only you have the choice to create.
The Courage to say Enough
By CarolAnn Bailey-Lloyd – Senior social media specialist, online copywriter, ghostwriter, professional blogger and web consultant
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