Posted by: CarolAnn | December 11, 2011

Life from a Third Person’s View

Do you really understand what is happening in another’s life? Sometimes we do and say things that are less than empathetic without ever thinking about what others are experiencing in their lives. We drop more workloads onto them. We cut them off on the roadways. We leave chaos in their wake. We take advantage of their charity. We molest every attempt of gentleness they offer. All the while, we nonchalantly lead our lives without skipping a beat. Are you this person?

Better still, how often have you been on the receiving end of less than favorable circumstance in your life? We have all been there. We have had so much stress around us that we couldn’t see the forest for the trees. No matter what we did or said, nothing seemed to lessen the load: long work hours, stressful home lives, financial woes, household repairs, sickness, depression… the whole nine yards. And in the midst of it all, there’s one person (or group of persons), choosing to make your life a living hell. How did it make you feel then? How does it make you feel day in and day out?

Emotions are vulnerability we all have and experience. We are susceptible to the emotional repercussions because we are human. No one or nothing can make a person feel a certain way, but because we are emotional beings, we tend to fall prey to the external and aggravating nuances that enter our lives. The worst part is that it is proven that stress creates real, physical illness. It deteriorates our immune systems, wrecks havoc on our ability to concentrate, and by the time all is said and done, we become emotional basket cases – which often leads to nervous breakdowns, obesity, or heart disease, among other common disorders and dis-ease.

Life from a Third Person’s View

When you converse with a person, do you honestly know what that person is going through?  Maybe that individual has lost someone close to him. Perhaps she has had a really tough day at work. Your friend, family member or coworker may have health issues he is dealing with. Perhaps she is suffering from neglect or abuse. Maybe he is struggling day in and day out to pay his electric bill, phone bill and mortgage payment. Perhaps he’s been having other family issues. If she is contending with the weight of the world on her shoulders, how you treat her may be the proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back, or the hand-up out of the darkness.

The next time you decide to heap more coals on the fire, put yourself in that person’s shoes. When you cut off the person in the turning lane, place more financial strain on an individual, snap at the individual for no good reason, or just make life harder on the person in general, ask yourself: How would I feel if someone did that to me, acted that way, or spoke to me that way? Remember, not everyone has a wonderful life. Not everyone is as blissful as you may be. Not everyone has the greatest relationship … but if you take the time to think before you speak or act, you may just save a life. Instead of reacting, become proactive by practicing random acts of kindness. Your loving kindness and empathy may just have a positive impact in the life of someone else. J

Life from a Third Person’s View

By CarolAnn Bailey-Lloyd

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Read more about life and other fun topics, including the social media sorceress‘ most recent post, The Worst DIY Disaster – the Monster in the Closet, among numerous other articles on social media, philosophy or insight!



  1. very deep and gets me thinking…

  2. Thanks, for your positive feedback, Ahron… this piece was prompted by personal hardships and seeing the hardships of others. I think we could all learn a thing or two about the best way to deal with life, love and living in more empathetic ways. 🙂

  3. I agree with you 100%

  4. I agree with you, again-100%

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