Posted by: CarolAnn | February 7, 2011

America’s Love Affair with Domestic Violence

We have all known someone, heard of someone or watched a film about someone who has been a victim of domestic violence. Some of us have even been on the receiving end of domestic violence; still others have played the role of the abuser.  According to a report compiled by the National Coalition against Domestic Violence (NCADV), power and control traits associated with abusers include coercion and threats, intimidation, male privilege, economic abuse, using children, minimizing and blaming, emotional abuse and isolation. Sadly, domestic violence affects all those around them; especially boys who are witness to it as they are twice as likely to become abusers when they become adults.

American social writer and philosopher, Eric Hoffer said, “You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.” I believe this holds true in all cases of domestic violence…even those that are so easily muted by society. Do not be fooled that domestic violence is limited to just families as it also extends to class groups within society. The unrealized cases of coercion, threats, intimidation, male privilege, economic abuse and the broad use of children can be readily seen in our political system. Sadly, many do not even grasp that they are being taken advantage of in such ways frequently until it is too late. In essence, this has become America’s love affair with domestic violence.

Some groups in today’s society sincerely believe that certain political organizations are looking out for their own best interests when in fact the opposite is true. My friend Mike and I were discussing the hypocrisy of some religious leaders in today’s America. He remarked that the “unholy alliance with the right wing has traded religious influence for political support.” Let’s think about that statement for a moment. If we travel back through history, the single-most abusive business has been in fact organized religion or similar ideological belief systems.

One primary example of that is David Koresh, who defied the outside world with his own misguided ideologies about religion. Koresh shared many of the traits of an abuser — including child abuse, physical abuse and isolation, among others. Lest not forget the notorious Jonestown event, led by religious cult leader Jim Jones. Next to the events of 9-11, this mass suicide spawned by the religious cult leader took the lives of over 900 members. Some may argue that these are isolated incidents; however, rest assured that these are not. In fact, religious organizations around the world practice tyranny day in and day out without so much as a slap on the wrist.

Here in America, the Westboro Baptist Church practices hatred daily; even hailing signs and messages that “God hates you.” Scott Roeder, infamous for his murder of an abortion doctor, felt that he did no wrong.  Go back a bit further in history, and you find that more atrocities and “domestic violence” have occurred. Take the Salem Witch Trials, for example. Conducted by religious zealots who had both prominence and politics on their side, 20 men and women were convicted and murdered for “witchery”; not to mention hundreds of others who were jailed for the same.

Do not be fooled America. Those who swoon you with anti-government sentiments, claims of secession and fear mongering under the guise of liberty and freedom, are the same individuals who would strip you of your property, or worse, your freedom.   Strange thing is that some groups, who have been so pro-gun and pro-conservative, are unaware of the political gun confiscation that took place during post-Katrina by both war-profiteering Blackwater operatives (affiliated with Dick Cheney) and the Department of Homeland Security. Domestic violence is alive and well. It is often swept beneath the rugs of the elite and often conservative unmentionables and at the cost of the working poor and middle class. Allow me to once again reiterate Eric Hoffer’s words, “You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.”

Time to wake up. Time to end the cycle of domestic violence now.

PS. It’s not that I do not trust in God, it’s just that all others pay cash…and in some cases, gold.

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America’s Love Affair with Domestic Violence

By CarolAnn Bailey-Lloyd – Social Media Sorceress on current events, social media, philosophy and more!

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  1. I agree. It seems to me that it is not necessarily a violence against women behavior as much as it is a power fixation with abusing those who are weaker than the perpetrators, whether they are the poor, the sick, women, or the old. It just happens that traditionally women are a weaker segment of the population and can easily be abused because of proximity and economic dependence.

  2. Exactly, Terry. That was the purpose of this article. I wanted to point out that there are many vulnerabilities in society classes … not just women and children, and in some cases, men. It has become a group problem…a social matter that over the years has grown worse and ritualistic by certain political powers. I certainly wish more would open their eyes to the true brutality that exists within our own Nation. Thx for reading and commenting — ❤ & Light — CA

  3. Well done. Nice and very adroit corollary 🙂

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